From 45 Fibroids to a Hysterectomy
The Questions I Learned to Ask to Reclaim My Health
For two years, I lived in a state of pain and uncertainty. After being diagnosed with over 45 uterine fibroids, yes, forty-five, because apparently my uterus was an overachiever and I knew a major decision was looming.
But here’s the thing: I felt completely lost.
The journey to my hysterectomy was filled with consultations, deep-seated worries, and the overwhelming feeling of not even knowing what to ask.
If you’ve just been diagnosed or are weighing your options for fibroids, I see you. I’ve been exactly where you are, sitting in that exam room feeling like you’re drowning in medical jargon while your brain screams, "But what does this mean for me?"
I’m sharing my story not just to tell you what happened, but to hand you the roadmap I wish someone had given me from the start. Add my words to your guide to self-advocacy and taking back your power.
Let’s Talk About the Elephant in the Room
First, let’s address the fear that often goes unspoken: sex and intimacy. It was one of my biggest concerns, and I’m willing to bet it’s crossed your mind too. So let me say this clearly: having a hysterectomy does not have to be the end of your sex life. Full stop!
It’s a crucial conversation to have with your doctor, and yes, it might feel awkward to bring up. But please don’t let embarrassment stop you from getting the information you need. Your doctor has heard it all before, trust me, you’re not going to shock them.
You Are the CEO of Your Body
Here’s what I learned: You are the most important person on your medical team. Not your doctor, not your surgeon, YOU. And the questions below? They’re the ones that helped me find my voice and take control of my journey.
Part 1: Understanding Your Diagnosis & Surgery
Why this surgery?"
Don’t just accept "because you have fibroids" as an answer. Ask your doctor to explain exactly why a hysterectomy is the best option for you over other treatments. What makes your case different?
What type of hysterectomy are you recommending?"
Have them walk you through the specific procedure abdominal, vaginal, or laparoscopic (the fancy term for 'keyhole' surgery) and why it’s the right fit for your situation. Bodies are different. Your surgery should reflect that.
"What stays and what goes?"
This is essential, people. Get crystal clear on this. Ask: "Will my cervix be removed? Can I keep my ovaries?" These aren’t just body parts, they have real implications for your long-term health, hormone levels, and how you’ll feel afterward.
Part 2: Planning for Your Recovery & Future
"What does my recovery actually look like?"
And I mean actually. Not the glossy brochure version. Ask for a realistic timeline. What are the physical limitations, and for how long? When can you expect to feel human again? When can you lift more than a coffee cup without wincing?
"Who will I need for support?"
This is critical, and I cannot stress it enough: You will need help. Ask your doctor for specifics so you can arrange your support system. You’re going to need someone to help you with basic tasks, and there’s zero shame in that.
"What does my follow-up care involve?"
Know when you’ll see your doctor post-op and how often. Who do you call if something feels off during recovery? Get those numbers programmed into your phone before surgery day.
"Where can I find more support?"
Ask about resources like patient support groups, online communities, or counselors who specialize in this area. You don’t have to white-knuckle this journey alone.
The Most Important Thing
My final piece of advice is the most important: You betta, keep asking questions. There is no such thing as a silly question when it comes to your body and your peace of mind.
None. Zero. Nada.
Write your questions down before appointments. Take a trusted friend or family member with you (four ears are better than two, especially when you're stressed). And don't stop asking until you feel clear and confident in your decision.
You deserve to be an active, empowered participant in your own healthcare. Not a passenger, not a bystander, a full-fledged decision-maker.
Your journey to healing starts there. This is My Stuff Too!
