This isn’t another story about a man who couldn’t keep it in his pants — we’ve heard those a thousand times, and honestly, we all have the capability to step out on someone.

We’ve all heard the phrase “I’m only doing this because I care about you.” It sounds loving, doesn’t it? But sometimes, beneath those caring words lies something else entirely: control masquerading as help.

Let me paint you a picture that might feel painfully familiar. You’re dating someone who seems to have a PhD in creating their own problems, followed immediately by a master’s degree in acting shocked when those problems blow up in their face.