Breaking Up with Your Past
Let’s talk about that ex you keep texting. No, not that ex—though honestly, stop doing that too. I’m talking about your past self, old situations, and people who’ve basically ghosted you but somehow still live rent-free in your head.
You know the drill. You're out here conducting full conversations with people who wouldn't recognize you if you showed up at their door with a mariachi band. Meanwhile, you're still saving their contact as "DO NOT ANSWER" instead of just deleting it like a normal person.
The Museum of "Remember When"
We've all got that one friend who still brings up high school like it was last Tuesday. Don't be that friend to yourself. You're out here curating memories like they're going to increase in value, but honey, this isn't vintage wine—it's expired milk.
That person who used to make your heart skip? They're probably lactose intolerant now and have strong opinions about cryptocurrency. The job that crushed your soul? It's been filled by someone who's probably wondering why the coffee machine makes weird noises (spoiler: you never figured that out either).
People change. Situations evolve. That's not a bug in the system—it's literally how life works.
The Waiting Game (Spoiler Alert: You’re Going to Lose)
Here's the thing about waiting for closure: it's like waiting for your favorite TV show to come back from cancellation. Sure, stranger things have happened, but you're probably better off finding a new show.
You're sitting there like, "But what if they text me to apologize?" or "What if they finally realize what they lost?" And I'm over here like, "What if you realized what you're gaining by letting this go?"
That apology you're waiting for! Even if it comes, it's not going to feel like the confetti-and-rainbow moment you've imagined. It's going to be awkward, probably too late, and definitely not worth the mental real estate you've been paying for.
Plot Twist: You’re the Main Character
Here's what they don't tell you in those self-help books (probably because it doesn't sound as mystical): you don't need anyone's permission to move on. You don't need a formal goodbye, a signed document, or a ceremonial burning of old photos (though that last one can be therapeutic—just don't set off the smoke alarm).
The only person keeping you stuck is you. Which sounds harsh, but it's actually great news because it means you're also the only person who can set yourself free.
The Marie Kondo Method for Your Heart
Time to declutter your emotional closet. Ask yourself: does this memory spark joy, or does it just spark anxiety and the urge to check someone's Instagram at 2 AM?
If it's the latter, thank it for its service and show it the door. Your heart doesn't need to be a storage unit for other people's old stuff.
Your New Beginning Starts Now
Look, I get it. Letting go feels like losing something, even when that something has been slowly poisoning your peace. But think of it this way: you're not losing anything real. You're losing the fantasy, the "what if," the story you kept telling yourself.
And what you gain? Oh, just your sanity, your energy, and the chance to write new stories with people who actually want to be in them.
So go ahead, unfollow that ex (all of them), delete those screenshots of old arguments, and stop checking up on people who aren't checking up on you. Your future self is waiting, and trust me, they've got better things to do than babysit ghosts from your past.
The best revenge against what didn’t work out. Living so well that you forget why you were mad in the first place. Yep! That Part!
Queenie 💛