We’ve all heard the phrase “I’m only doing this because I care about you.” It sounds loving, doesn’t it? But sometimes, beneath those caring words lies something else entirely: control masquerading as help.

Let me paint you a picture that might feel painfully familiar. You’re dating someone who seems to have a PhD in creating their own problems, followed immediately by a master’s degree in acting shocked when those problems blow up in their face.

This is your reminder that your story matters. Every chapter. Every plot twist. Every beautiful, complicated, hope-filled page.

In a world that constantly demands our attention, energy, and emotional investment, there’s something profoundly liberating about remembering this simple truth: you have the power to protect your peace.

Let’s talk about that ex you keep texting. No, not that ex—though honestly, stop doing that too. I’m talking about your past self, old situations, and people who’ve basically ghosted you but somehow still live rent-free in your head.